3 Tips For A Highly Sensitive Person With An Eating Disorder

Eating Disorder Picture of HSP Girl

Are you a highly sensitive person?

 

Many of my eating disorder clients who identify as a highly sensitive person share that they didn’t feel HEARD or SEEN as a child. They felt out of place and misunderstood.⁣

 

You might be a HSP if:⁣

 

1) your INNER world feels more alive and loud than the one you’re living⁣

2) you are extremely perceptive and attuned to others’ likes and dislikes⁣

3) you feel highly anxious or distracted with constant noise, chaos or repetitive sounds (i.e. smacking, pen tapping, etc)⁣

Highly Sensitive Person with Eating Disorder Annoyed Loud Noises Restaurant

4) criticism of any magnitude can greatly affect your mood and self-talk⁣

5) you are sensitive to the clothes you wear – restrictive clothing bothers you as do seams and tags⁣

6) you struggle when there is time or performance pressure (such as test)⁣

7) you can’t make sense of violence and feel deeply for others experiencing it⁣

8) you are highly aware of your surroundings and environment and very observant with a high attention to detail

A more exhaustive list of 21 Signs That You Are A Highly Sensitive Person can be found here.

 

Eating Disorder Recovery as a HSP

 

I didn’t discover I was a highly sensitive person (HSP) until a few years ago. Now that I know I’m a HSP, I understand my emotions better and give myself more grace.

 

This would have been game changing if I knew this during my eating disorder recovery. Did you know that many highly sensitive people struggle with disordered eating?

 

3 Tips During Eating Disorder Recovery

 

1) Embrace who you already are

 

Accepting who you are is a beautiful process. Don’t try to change who you are. This is exhausting and causes internal conflict.

 

The eating disorder wants you to be somebody else. It has convinced you that you aren’t good enough the way you are. This is a total lie! Do you know the other ED lies? Familiarize yourself with them here so you’re ready and on the lookout for them.

 

Being a highly sensitive person is a strength in recovery. The HSP is more in touch with his or her emotions and this is a good thing when it comes to recovery and uncovering how you feel.

 

Highly Sensitive Person with Eating Disorder being comfortable with who they are

 

2) Learn more about what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person

 

I recommend reading this book by Elaine N. Aron. The author has a workbook as well.

 

It will help you make sense of who you are which is entirely comforting. You will feel less alone and see how to use the many strengths that exist within the HSP. The author also touches on eating disorders which I found totally relatable and eye opening.

 

3) Create a routine for yourself.

 

Understand that food cravings are a common reaction to upsetting emotions in HSPs. The highly sensitive person often takes an emotional trigger and satiates it with a physical comfort – mostly eating.

 

Routine can help bring predictability to the uncertainty. It takes practice but many of my HSP clients have found that adding structure prevents them from immediately reacting to a trigger.

Three keys if you are stuck in eating disorder recovery hell

stuck in recovery move to recovered

Feeling stuck in eating disorder recovery?

 

Staying BUSY in eating disorder recovery can often lead to staying STUCK in eating disorder recovery and not moving to recovered.

 

After I finally accepted I had an eating disorder, I started to look for help. This can be a daunting task, but I finally found some people and scheduled appointments.

 

I thought to myself, “Hey, I’m recovering.” This is what people with eating disorders do.

 

I’ll do therapy. Check.
Perhaps I’ll try a dietician. Check.
Hmmm, how about group therapy. Check.
Psychiatrist appointment. Sure, okay. Check.
Maybe I need more. Okay, must do residential. Check.
Wait! It’s not working. I need alternative therapies. Meditation. Yoga. Check.

 

I kept handing my fate over to others hoping it would move the needle. The more appointments I made, the more dependent I was on therapy and the more permanent RECOVERY HELL became. I was stuck.

 

I guessed my way through, and those around me did too. At no point in seven years, did my team collaborate to come up with a multi-faceted game plan for me. Moreover, no one asked for my input in creating a roadmap.

 

3 Keys to Moving to “Recovered”

 

Read the 3 keys below to walk towards recovered and get out of recovery hell.

 

1) If you’re getting comfortable with your treatment, it’s not working.

 

I’d go to appointment after appointment, seeking something magical. But the only magic that came was a false sense of security. I felt comfortable. This is what I am supposed to be doing, I’d tell myself.

 

stuck in eating disorder recovery

 

Occasionally, I’d feel good leaving an appointment and I’d uncover some major truth about the eating disorder. However, hours later, I’d find myself totally stuck in eating disorder recovery, behaviors and eating disorder lies.

 

You need to be pushed like you never been pushed before if you are going to move towards recovered. You will feel uncomfortable and question the hell out of recovery, but this is where it happens.

 

2) Freedom isn’t something you stumble upon. It requires a real eating disorder recovery action plan.

 

If you are in therapy, working with a coach, dietician or any other professional, DEMAND a plan. What are you working towards; how will you get there?

 

Together, CREATE a plan and a map to get to where you want to go. Without one, freedom is just an idea.

 

3) The only way to shape your destiny is to be involved in the plan.

 

You must have input in your eating disorder recovery plan. USE YOUR VOICE.

 

As a result, you are invested in your recovery and the probability of freedom is HIGH. On the other hand, when you just follow orders or shoot in the dark, recovery is a needle in a hay stack.

 

I’m NOT suggesting you ditch appointments, but I am suggesting you take a hard look at what those appointments are doing for you.

 

Are you going because you’re making progress? Or are you going because that’s what you think the road to recovered looks like?

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Do the work

 

Work like hell in between appointments. Don’t rely on an hour long appointment each week. DEMAND homework and demand steps or action items before your next appointment. Start to use your voice and advocate for yourself.

Finally, stay uncomfortable. This is the path from being stuck in eating disorder recovery hell to recovered. If you’re ready to make meaningful progress, reach out to a coach today.